The Men's Divorce Playbook

Helping men cope, heal, and thrive through their divorce experience


This site is for those of you going through any phase of your divorce. Having been in your shoes, I didn’t even know where to start down this divorce path. I didn’t know the basic mechanics of how divorce worked and what I needed to do, let alone the emotional challenges I was up against. I could have desperately benefited from having this information going into and through my divorce. My goal is to provide you insight into how you can be prepared and manage this unique time in your life. You will take with you thoughts, ideas, and tools that will help expedite your healing and recovery time, while ultimately helping you to thrive in your new life post-divorce.


Understand the things you need to be prepared for divorce physically, mentally, and emotionally


"... a heart is like a mold that is broken so it can grow larger, capable of a deeper and greater understanding of love. “ quote from The Men’s Divorce Playbook


You have the ability to recreate yourself anew after your divorce. You can choose the life you want to live. You have the ability to create it. - The Men’s Divorce Playbook


I’m looking to help men get through divorce by sharing stories, inspiration, and tools to help men manage this transition in their lives. The goal is to come out on the other side better having gone through the experience. Today I feel I’m a better man today because of the adversities in my life and I want to help you thrive post-divorce. I realized when I was going through my divorce in 2012, I felt alone having to navigate and figure divorce all out on my own. Fortunately for me, I do pretty well on my own, but I could have benefited from hearing other men’s experiences about what was coming down the road during this challenging time. I’ve always observed a difference between men and women when coping with break ups. I believe women in general have a better network for emotional support. Men on the other hand, based on society standards, are supposed to be “tough” and do it on their own. Women cry on the shoulders of the girlfriends and hold each other. They are typically less alone through the recovering process. Men retreat to their caves in isolation to figure it out on their own until they’re ready to return to the world. My goal is to help men through this process, help them feel connected to others, and provide useful tools to expedite their healing.


"This book provides a succinct and informative guide for getting men started on the right track with their divorce. In many cases, divorce is painful and challenging, but it doesn't have to be devastating. The author presents a compassionate and insightful look at how to begin navigating the often tumultuous divorce process. His tips offer the reader a guide for coming through it emotionally, mentally, and spiritually intact. Indeed, this book proposes more than a survival guide, but a growth-oriented perspective along with practical tips."

Chad V. Johnson

Licensed Psychologist and university professor
"As a divorce attorney, I deal with men all the time going through the upheaval of divorce. I believe 'The Men's Divorce Playbook', will be a helpful tool for any practicing Family Law Attorney, as well as his respective client in dealing with the emotional and financial turmoil a man finds himself in an ongoing divorce case. Tom has an ability to speak from the heart of a man through his book that can give a divorce litigant the necessary coping skills to weather such adversity. I strongly recommend this as a must read book for any man going through divorce."

Stephen P. Gray

Attorney at Law
This is a great book for any man or woman who has gone through or is going through a divorce. During a time where most people feel more alone than ever, it's great to know that you are not alone. And to have a real life perspective from another person who has gone through all of the same feelings. The author is genuine and easy to relate to. I would definitely recommend this book to any person who needs any type of guidance in this matter.

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